Our Journey

For Better or Worse

Confused….

Husband & I finally spoke very briefly about the what we needed to do.

I’ve looked at the dates and approximately when we should go through ICSI. Since it looks like I may need to go to Singapore for work in November, the we’re off to our Christmas cruise to the South Pacific in December, January seemed like the right time. This is of course provided work does send our team to Europe for a meeting in February!

I know! I know! It seems like I’m letting work take over our plans, but realistically we’re on a catch 22. If I don’t work, I don’t get paid which is what we need for the procedure, puts a shelter over our head, food in out mouth & clothes on our back. Yes, my husband works, but living in Sydney is not cheap by any means.

As husband and I were on our dinner date, he received an email from his mother advising him that she wants him to have his kidney transplant in January. That kind of blew me away!

As mentioned in my one of my previous entries, my husband has an illness. He has a kidney condition which has affected both kidneys and will eventually need a transplant. His mother has volunteered to be a kidney donor & since she’s not getting any younger, she wants him to have the transplant soon, in 4 months!

This has of course left me confused. I love my husband, there’s no denying that & I would be selfish to deprive him of this opportunity. It’s just now changed our plans. I can’t go through ICSI and him a kidney transplant, plus his mother be a donor.

O yes, I failed to mention that his mother lives in New York, so will need to come and live with us for a minimum of 6 months to be monitored after the surgery. I can’t possibly look after 2 recovering people & try getting pregnant at the same time. It’s just not going to work.

I was speechless when my husband told me this over dinner. I’m still confused and now lost as to what we need to do.

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September 29, 2012 Posted by | Feelings | , , | 1 Comment